Weddings are all the rage this season. From themed parties to bollywood celebrities to cocktails and bars, each and every wedding is unique on its own. You must be getting invited to lots of weddings. Then you must have heard about Weddi-quette. No? Well these are wedding etiquettes everybody should follow, be you a guest or bride or groom. These rules will help everyone to make a wedding successful without ending up in a disaster or a total fiasco. The wedding is most important day in a brides and grooms life. Let’s make it even more special.
Following are some Dos and Don’ts to follow at a wedding party so that you are an ideal guest. Follow them all to make it a success.
Do’s you shouldn’t miss:
1. RSVP as soon as humanly possible: within a couple of weeks of receiving invitation at the latest. These are good manners and give the host an idea about how many guests are gathering to make appropriate arrangements. It also helps in determining the wedding cost. Check the invitation carefully to know how many people are invited. If it says two, then take only two. Otherwise it will create difficulty for the host.
2. If you are invited for the main ceremony then do not show up just on reception. Also be on time and not disturb the proceedings by being late.
3. A wedding gives you golden opportunity to dress up yourself to your heart’s content. Style as the occasion demands. You would not want to look an odd duck. If the theme is western then go for formal gown, if Punjabi then salwaar kameez and so on. If you’re unsure of the dress code, ask someone familiar with the wedding.
4. Even if you are not attending, you should give wedding gift to the newlyweds. After all they took the pains to invite you. Thank them for invitation. The wedding gift should be something which costs somewhere near the cost per head being born by the host. Etiquette dictates that if you were invited, you owe the newlyweds a gift. You may even loose long term friendship over this.
5. Sit at the assigned table: If there is some kind of seating arrangement made by the hosts, then don’t mess it up. They went to a lot of trouble to know the relations and set up the arrangement. Don’t mess it up and cause discomfort to the host. As it is, the host has enough pressure to handle, don’t add to it.
6. Congratulate the family: Even if you know the couples and have congratulated them already, do seek out their families and wish them joy and happiness. It’s what etiquette demands. Also you will be able to form new relations.
Don’ts you should follow:
1. If you weren’t invited with a guest, don’t show up with one. Don’t bring uninvited guest. They might ruin the party. And don’t ask the bride or groom if you can bring one. Because this will be an awkward situation and they will not be able to say no to you. Be thoughtful and add to the party environment by keeping out disturbing elements.
2. Yes, the “no bringing uninvited guests” rule includes your kids. The main centres of attraction are the bride and groom not your kid. They will only disturb you and move your attention away from the couple. You may not be able to enjoy the party to its fullest and then your mood will certainly be off. So keep your kids with baby sitters and enjoy the party with your friends and family.
3. Don’t dress to compete: You would not want to take away the attention from the bride and groom, would you? It’s not a fashion show or your school prom, it’s a wedding. Dress appropriately but don’t overdo. The bride and groom have every right to look their best among all the party attendees.
4. Don’t be disrespectful of the couple’s religious or cultural traditions. If you are attending party of someone who follow different tradition and religion than that of you don’t be disrespectful to their culture. Follow along with the rituals and even participate in them. It’s expected from you.
5. No to cell phone: You are here to attend a wedding, not in a hat room. The wedding offers you chance to socialize and renew your relations. Don’t waste this chance by concentrating only on virtual life of cell phone and not on real people around you. And random calls will disturb the rituals going on. There is life beyond your cell phone, enjoy it.
6. Don’t get wasted: If there is bar setup at the wedding does not mean you are at a pub where you are getting free drinks thereby giving you opportunity to indulge to your heart’s content. A Big No to getting drunk. This will not only embarrass the guest present but you could be making a spectacle of yourself. Your friends may not like you afterwards. Take a drink or two and retain your senses.
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