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10 most important things to know before buying a perfect engagement ring

buying a perfect engagement ring

Planning on popping the question? Then you must be looking for ways to find that perfect engagement ring that will show how much you love your partner. An engagement ring is a long term investment, not just in money terms, but also because every time you will glance at it, it will remind you of the love you share with your partner. Planning ahead is always better than regretting later on.

Here are the most important tips for finding a perfect engagement ring for your beloved.

1. Estimate your budget:  it is often said that an engagement ring will eat up two months worth salary. Planning ahead on budget helps in knowing your price range and is also helpful to the jeweler. Knowing your affordability in advance helps you not to feel cheated afterward, or regret. But always keep in mind that the budget may go up, be prepared for it.

2. Choose a good jewelry store: choose a store which has all the certificates. Try to avoid chain stores. You can ask for recommendations from friends and family. The jeweler should be able to customize your preferences if need arises. Also the store must be friendly and comfortable as choosing an engagement ring is a stressful task.

3. Discuss with others: you may want to know other people’s experiences. Search online or discuss with your married friends and family persons. You can even take someone with you when you go shopping. Discussing will give you ideas and make you more prepared.

4. Pay attention to her jewelry choice: listen carefully whenever she/he discusses jewelry or try to gauge your beloved’s tastes and references through actions and getup. Discuss jewelry, especially rings just casually with her. Know her size beforehand. Either you can take your partner to along with you to shop for the ring, or if you are planning on surprising, then take into confidence her mother or best friend. Remember, it’s not you who would have to wear the ring every day, it’s your partner.

5. 4 Cs and then the 5th one:  studying ahead about the ring you are going to buy helps you in choose the best ring. The most important chapters of a ring guide are 4 Cs- cut, carat, clarity, and color of the stone. Add to it a 5th C- cost. Choosing a ring which is not purely diamond and platinum but can easily pass for one for years to come can be a good option for your budget. Who cares if the solitaire is 18 carat or not, a cubic zirconia is cheaper as well as looks exactly the same. You may want to consider these options before buying the ring. Cut of diamond can enhance its sparkle and beauty. Clearer the diamond, higher will be the price. Know the scales which are used to measure clarity and color of a gemstone to gauge its accurate price.

6. Research thoroughly: know all about metals, gemstones and setting beforehand. Cost of metals, whether platinum or gold, solitaire of some other, and setting of stone on band will guide you a lot when you will go to the store and will have numerous choices in front of you. A thin band around the stone may give the illusion of it being bigger, or a combination of metals and style can increase durability of the ring.

7. Practicality and durability: practicality and durability are most important things to make the ring last lifelong or even be converted into heirloom, to be passed on generation to generation. Know beforehand, what type of ring will suit her the most and retain its shape and size ever after years of wear and terr. If your partner loves outdoor activities, a lower gemstone setting is preferred, or if she is fashionable, then finds the latest trends. Platinum is more durable than gold, or for more durability, get an alloy of titanium and white gold for the band.

8. Purchase before proposal: you may not be able to get the ring immediately. Or you may opt for a customized ring. Plan the date of proposal well in advance, so that you may have the ring ready on time. Notify you jeweler about the expected date and collect the ring just before proposing so that you don’t have to worry about keeping it safe.

9. Get it insured: the ring should be bought with an eye for trading it up in future, so that you may not be at loss when in future your spouse changes his/her ring for a grander one. Also protect yourself against theft, get the ring insured. You are spending hard earned money on it, it’s worth it. Even if you have to pay your premium, so what! You have invested time and money for the ring. Get consultation for good insurance company. Have it numbered so that it will not get exchanged when out for polishing.

10. Get in writing: ask for all the certificates and warranties. The make, style, cut and cost should be with you in writing. A gemologist’s certification helps in long-term investment in the ring.

Now you are fully prepared to get the engagement ring. Decide upon the setting and go, pop the question. All the best wishes for you, good luck!

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10 tips make your Fiance enthusiast about your Wedding

What I appreciate in my wife is that she not only manages to lure me into getting the required household stuff but also uplifts my mood for the same. You all know how difficult it is to shop for women and men hardly do that. All you need is to play a little smart to make us work especially when there is a boys reunion to attend or during “Sachin batting in England”

shopping for boys
Boys and Shopping

During our wedding, fortunately my wife finished off her lehenga shopping within 1-2 weeks. I am sure you must be wondering HOW! And with half a day of shopping exposure I do not get much to mock her on wedding shopping. Well, this is what we are. I have come up with 10 tips to make men a part of your wedding planning that too with full on enthusiasm. Have a look:

1. Men do not like doing girl-ey stuff: I am not being chauvinist and only just stating a fact. You will feel a lot better once you accept this fact. Do not complaint much. When your partner will see the entire burden falling on your shoulder, he will come to you all by himself.

2. Plan well in advance: Tally your plans according to his convenient time and availability. If needed reschedule your calendar too. Try to frame your question right. He will never be able to completely deny for that matter.

Advance Plan
Advance Plan

3. Be selective: You do not need him all the time. Therefore, save his presence for crucial times. Men are very good observers, so the next time you ask him to come with you, he will understand that the job is important and he will make no complaints.

4. Stay focused: Whenever, you go out shopping with him, prepare a list before hand on the shops you plan on visiting and what you plan on buying. Men do not like wasting time on malls for shopping and will come up with an excuse the next time you want him to go shopping with you. .

5. Men are not your driver: If you are too tired to drive or to travel alone book a cab. Do not substitute your partner for your driver. Don’t expect him to cancel his plans just because you need a driver. He will never like this gesture.

6. Club it all: Do not plan your wedding as something as he will have to ride pass through. Make it interesting for him.

7. Take a friend along: If you have a mutual friend, probably a male friend, take him along as well so that he does not get bored. Use this as a trump card.

Shopping With Girlfriend
Shopping With Girlfriend

8. Consider his opinion: Majority of girls does not abide by the opinion of their partner in shopping and as such the guy feels less valued. I did not mean that you need to buy whatever he says, but at least consider his opinion as well. This will make him more interested in lending you a hand in shopping.

9. Sound like a cost controller: It does give heart attacks to pay the bills no matter how rich your partner is. I am sure he must have skipped a few heartbeats merely by listening to the wedding planning. Know how to manipulate the truth.

10. TRICK him: Trick your guy to speak his heart out and use it as a shield against him. Like each lock has its own key, you will have to find out what will make your man speak. Well, a known devil is better than an unknown angel!

If you use the above tricks smartly – one at a time, I am sure he will be accompanying you in most of your shopping sprees. Whatever less is left to you, can be done with your father/mother/mother-in-law/brother/sister. Spare the poor soul completely on those days. Happy Shopping!!

These are some of the foolproof plan that will sure to be effective for wedding shopping with your partner. And wherever will be left can be done with your father/mother/mother-in-law/brother/sister etc. Happy Shopping!

How to deal with a selfish Wife

Marriage is not always about enjoying on the bed of roses. Happy and ideal marriage is a myth. If you are not perfect, you can not expect your spouse to be mistake free. But, there is a difference between making mistake and being selfish and mean. And if your spouse starts showing such symptoms, your relationship is heading towards terrible danger.

Selfishness in any relationship can be toxic. This symptom seems to take a more ugly shape in adults compared to children. They tend to become irrational, immature and even throw bad temper tantrums. Well, selfish wives do exist and so do husbands. A selfish wife only thinks about herself and do not bother looking after the household at all.

Tips to Deal with a Selfish Wife
Tips to Deal with a Selfish Wife

Note that marriage cannot be dependent only on the whims and fancies of your partner. Both of them have to understand that marriage is a two person partnership business, both with equal share and responsibilities. For a successful marriage, one must love, value and respect the feelings of the other person. If you wife seem nowhere near to understand these, here are a few ways to make her realize where is she going wrong. Take a peep at these tips for a successful marriage.

Point out

It happens most of the time where women don’t realize that they are acting selfish. So, start out by pointing at her faults the next time she acts mean.

Talk it out

Try to talk it out. There is a possibility that by acting selfish your wife is trying to point out something. Do not jump into any conclusion rather initiate the conversation by asking whether something is bothering her. By placing it this was she will feel that you are concerned about her and your relationship and will open up.

Draw the line

If negotiation fails it is better to go for the safer option. So what if she is your wife, so you can not let her to walk over you all the time. Let her know that you care for her but should not take you for granted at any cost.

Divide responsibilities

Make a list of the household chores and divide it between yourself. Do not entertain any kind of excuses from her if she avoids doing a thing on the list. Discuss beforehand the consequences when you or your wife is not able to complete the tasks on time.

Give the ultimatum

If things still do not turn up right, use threats. Threaten your wife that you will move out of the marriage. If she cares enough she will completely change herself.

Marriages only become successful only when both the partners are ready for a compromise at a level. Only one person compromise is a bad shape for marriage. If you are facing the same difficulty, try out these ways to get your selfish wife into the right path and safe your married life.

Effective Tips to get over a Break Up

Yes, breaking up is not easy. But do you know which is more difficult? Surviving the breakup. It is even hurtful to think that the relationship that you nurture with all your love, care and hope for the future might slips out of your hands and you will be left with nothing but reminiscence. The reflex to fight the emotion is a very tough gatherer. You have to bear the pain and live with it. But hang on! Isn’t it better to live alone than to be with the wrong person?

Break up can not be the end of life. Instead thank your stars for letting you out of the wrong relationships in which you have been suffering since a long time. You might have been the only one to care and hold on to your relationship with all that you had and the other person did not even bother. Therefore, why not take a completely newer perspective and move on with your life? You deserve better. And if you can not move on, you will be the only one who will suffer. Because, trust me, your ex would be happy in his life and lead it in a normal way.

Break Up Tips
Break Up Tips

If it is being very difficult to not being able to cope up with the break up, here are a few effective tips get over your ex once and for all.

Do not Contact: Remember the golden rule that Ex’s can not be friends! Cut off every bit of connection with him. Strictly no phone calls, no chatting, no messages, nothing. If he tries to be nice by asking you out, bluntly deny. He can not treat you like a play thing to make you act according to his fancies.

Avoid Old Spots: If you want to stop thinking about him at all avoid your dating spots. It might be difficult if you are studying in the same college or working in the same office. But as far as possible stay away from all those places where you have a lot to reminiscence about.

Distract Yourself: Hang on! I did not mean for you to go for habits such as drinking or smoking. Instead try to have fun. Join some hobby class, go out with old friends, go for blind dates or just go for a solo trip. It will keep you fresh and rejuvenate you at all times.

Accept: Try to accept the hash fact that your relationship is over and there is not way to get it back. Therefore, stop mourning over the past. Do not seem needy or desperate or give false hopes of reconciliation. Do not hang on to the past. Accept and move on.

Don’t Give Up: Merely one failed relationship can not decide your fate on love. Love is the most wonderful thing that happens in your life. So, what, it failed one time? Chuck out the idea that you will never find the right guy. There are better choices waiting for you out there. Never give up on love. You never know when you will end up with your soulmate.